Couples Therapy & Relationship Counseling in Delaware and Pennsylvania

You love each other—but lately it feels like you're speaking totally different languages.

Let's get you a translator.

If you’ve ever asked for relationship advice—or gotten it without asking—you’ve probably heard the same thing over and over: “Just communicate.”

But what the hell does that actually mean? And why does no one ever explain how to do it?

Yes, communication is vital. But it’s not just about talking more, or saying everything that’s on your mind. Real communication—honest, clear, connected—takes practice. It’s a skill, not an instinct. And most of us weren’t exactly handed a manual.

Whether you’re a long-term monogamous couple, a brand new pair, considering opening your relationship, or well-practiced polyam folks in a triad, quad, vee, or something uniquely your own—the skills are essentially the same, and I can help you build them.

In therapy, we work on learning how to communicate—not just in theory, but in ways that actually work in the heat of real-life conversations. You’ll start building something better together: a relationship that feels less exhausting, more connected, and more like a place you all actually want to be.

What I can help with…

If you're here and even considering relationship counseling, you're probably bumping into some of the usual suspects—issues that come up for almost everyone in close connection. The good news? You're not alone, you're not broken, and you're not too late. These are all things we can work on together—one step at a time.

  • Whether it's about dishes, sex, screen time, or scheduling—somehow, it always circles back to the same blowup. Or maybe you avoid the argument entirely, but still end up resentful and disconnected. These cycles can feel maddening—and hopeless. In therapy, we’ll slow things down and get underneath the surface, so you can finally start having different conversations (with better results).

  • This kind of push-pull can show up in any relationship: romantic, queerplatonic, polyam, monogamous—you name it. One person is always reaching while another/ others pull away to focus on individual needs or interests. You might feel rejected for wanting more, or smothered for needing breathing room. We'll work on understanding those patterns, creating safely in your individual bodies so that you can ask for space (or receive that ask) without feeling like your relationship is ending, and build a rhythm that honors everyone’s needs.

  • You tiptoe around what’s really bothering you. You keep your feelings to yourself. You try to keep things "peaceful"—but it's exhausting. Or maybe you do speak up, but it always ends in hurt feelings, yelling, or someone shutting down. Therapy can give you a safe place to practice being honest without it becoming a crisis, and learn how to actually hear each other.

  • Whether you're polyamorous, open, monogam-ish, or just curious about what else is possible, navigating multiple wants and needs is a skill—and most of us didn’t grow up learning it. I work with folks in all kinds of relationship structures to get clear on agreements, manage jealousy, communicate boundaries with care, and build relationships that feel expansive, not chaotic.

  • Maybe it was infidelity. Maybe it was a broken agreement, a lie, or a slow erosion of honesty over time. Whatever happened, trust feels fragile—or totally gone. That doesn’t mean things are unfixable. Therapy can help you understand what went wrong, take accountability (without shame spirals), and explore what healing could actually look like.

  • You care about each other, but things aren’t working—and maybe haven’t been for a while. You’ve thought about leaving. Or maybe one of you is already halfway out the door. Relationship therapy doesn’t have to mean “saving” the relationship. Sometimes it’s about getting clarity on what’s next, and making the most grounded, compassionate decision possible—together.

How things can start to feel different…

Relationship therapy is a commitment—and there are no quick fixes. But in my experience, many couples and relational systems start noticing real shifts as early as our second session. With time and effort, your hard work pays off in all kinds of ways, until one day you realize you can:

  • Communicate honestly without it turning into a shutdown or blowup

  • Say what you actually need, without guilt, panic, or backpedaling

  • Understand and manage jealousy instead of letting it run the show

  • Trust that you’re on the same team—even when you're not on the same page

  • Repair after conflict instead of pretending it didn’t happen

  • Know what your partner(s) are feeling—without having to read minds

  • Make decisions together without someone constantly folding to keep the peace

  • Feel secure knowing your relationship is a source of support, not stress

  • Feel like you’re building something meaningful, not just surviving day to day

You don’t have to keep doing this on your own. Together, we can rebuild something stronger—one real, honest conversation at a time.

Frequently asked questions about relationship therapy

Please feel free to review my general FAQ page here as well for additional answers to common questions about therapy overall.

  • Not necessarily. At the beginning of our work together, I’ll usually do our first intake session all together, then have at least one session with each individual partner separately to better understand dynamics and history—but most of our work will be done together.

  • That’s more common than you think, and an important question. It is important to me that we’re doing work that all parties are interested in doing, but it’s okay if you’re not exactly on the same page right away. I’ll help each of you find your footing, and some personal motivation, so no one feels dragged into the process or left behind.

  • Yes. I regularly work with triads, quads, vees, and other relationship constellations. We’ll collaborate to find a rhythm that works for your structure and everyone’s voice gets heard.

    Learn more about how I support folks in polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships here.

  • If you’re both (or all) still willing to show up, even a little, there’s a path forward. Sometimes things are messy—therapy can help you get clarity on whether you want to repair, restructure, or part with care.

  • Yes. I can’t make that decision for you—but I can guide you through the conversations and reflections that make it clearer. Whether you’re working toward reconnection or a respectful transition, therapy can help.

  • A relationship therapy intake is $275 for 90 minutes. This longer time is essential to creating a firm foundation for our work together, to ensure that everyone gets time to weigh in and speak to their experiences in the relationship that have led them to come to therapy.

    Ongoing regular relationship therapy session rates are determined by length of session. We will discuss the frequency (how often we meet) and duration (how long we meet) together after the initial assessment phase of our work together, and decide what makes the most sense for your relationship, your availability, and your finances. Fees are as follows:

    • 60-minute sessions: $210

    • 75-minute sessions: $235

    • 90-minute sessions: $260

    If you have out-of-network benefits, you might be able to submit a superbill for reimbursement. We can discuss this option on a free consult or you can read more on my FAQ page here.