Polyamory Therapy in Delaware, Pennsylvania, & Maryland
You’re not doing relationships “wrong.” You’re doing them in the way that works for you (or you hope will work for you!) - and that’s the most important thing.
But damn - it can still get complicated - no matter where you are in the process:
Maybe you’re curious about opening up your monogamous relationship, but you’re also terrified that it could break the good thing you already have
Perhaps you struggle with jealousy or insecurity but then don’t know what the heck to do with it - do you share it with partner(s) or is that burdensome? how do you ‘work it out’ all on your own?
You might have been at this a while and are hitting some bumps - needs that seem a little misaligned, difficult saying the hard thing, new desires you didn’t expect to have - and it’s all a little dizzying.
You might even feel confused - like, somehow even in a community without “boxes” there are still all these… boxes? And you’re not sure if you’re doing non-monogamy the “right” way…or if there even is a right way.
Or maybe you’re well-practiced in non-monogamy but just wanting to further elevate your relationships - communication, sex, or something else.
And if that’s where you’re at - you probably want support from a therapist who actually gets it and knows that it’s not your relationship structure that’s the problem.
I’m not here to tell you what your relationships should look like - I’m here to help you make them work for you.
I don’t believe there’s one “right” way to do polyamory, open relationships, or any other form of non-monogamy (apart from honestly - of course!). What matters it that you feel aligned, fulfilled, and confident in what you have. Whether you’re solo polyam, part of a triad or expanded polycule, identify as a swinger or relationship anarchist, or are just getting started and don’t know what the heck these words even mean - I’m here to help.
As a polyamorous therapist myself, I bring both lived experience AND clinical training to our work together. You won’t have to explain the basics to me, and I won’t look at you like you have three heads if you mention your “wife’s fiancé,” your “platonic life partner,” or your “partner’s play partner”. I’ll just meet you where you’re at and get down to what it is that’s causing strain for you - as an individual, couple, or larger relational structure.
In our sessions, we’ll explore your fears, needs, and desires. We’ll spend a lot of time talking about societal messaging (and how a lot of it is BS!), and how we can help you understand what parts of people’s opinions about relationships you do and don’t agree with. I’ll teach you how to create a container in which you can be super honest - with yourself and others - reducing miscommunication, fear of conflict, and the desire to predict the future.
Whether you’re navigating big transitions, confused about what you want or need, having trouble managing jealousy and insecurity, or just getting started in creating relationship agreements, I am confident that I can help you navigate your challenges and make space for the relationships you truly want, whatever that means for you.
As a non-monogamous person, or someone interested in this type of relationship, therapy can help you…
Start honestly exploring what you want and need in a relationship, AND learn how to express those things to others
Better understand your jealousy, fear, insecurity, or guilt so you can feel wiser, not weaker
Manage your anxiety about “doing non-monogamy wrong” so you can confident build relationships that you want to be in
Navigate conflict kindly, in a way that meets your needs, doesn’t “blow up,” and doesn’t keep surfacing again and again
Come up with a strategy for sharing about your relationship(s) with others (only if you want to!) that feels comfortable and authentic
Find the joy, love, connection, or pleasure that you were looking for from non-monogamy in the first place AND hold on to it
I support folks who practice polyamory and other types of non-monogamy in…
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Individual Therapy
Whether you’re balancing big emotions, trying to communicate boundaries, struggling with putting yourself out there, or unpacking past relationship wounds, I’m here to support you in better understanding yourself, reducing pain & anxiety.
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Relationship Therapy
I work with couples, polycules, triads, and other forms of constellations to help align needs and expectations, strengthen honest communication, build trust, and repair past hurts so that every individual can get their independent and connective needs met.
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Online Therapy
No matter where you are in Delaware, Maryland, or Pennsylvania, I offer virtual sessions so you can access a non-monogamy-competent therapist from the comfort of your own home. Teletherapy is available for individuals and relationships!
You deserve to have relationships that light you up.
I know there is a way forward for you - let’s find it together.
Frequently asked questions about therapy for polyamory and other non-monogamous relationships
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What an insightful question! The truth is, there’s no “perfect time” to start therapy. If you’re feeling overwhelmed in your relationship(s), unsure what to do or how to move forward, I believe you would benefit from support. You don’t have to have everything figured out - all you need is a willingness to be honest with yourself and with me, and we can figure out the rest together. I’m here to help you navigate this journey - whether you’ve been non-monog forever or just starting out.
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Whether you’re just starting to explore non-monogamy, are curious but unsure, or somewhere in between, therapy can be a safe space to sort through the questions without pressure or judgment. You might be wondering how to know what type of relationship would work for you, how to talk to a long-term partner about opening up, or how to start navigating a non-monogamous life on your own. Together, we’ll unthread those questions, clarify what’s important to you, and build the self-trust you need to move forward with confidence, whether or not you ultimately decide non-monogamy is for you, or not.
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People in relationships feel jealous and insecure sometimes (and so do people not in relationships!). These are normal emotions that, while sometimes painful and annoying, can ultimately tell us a lot about ourselves and what we need & value. In therapy, we’ll work to understand the root of these feelings, whether they stem from past experiences, unmet needs, or fears about the future. I’ll help you learn new communication tools so you can share your feelings openly with those you choose, and help you gain confidence in yourself and your ability to handle those hard things when they come up. You’ll learn how to hold your feelings with care without having them run your relationship(s).
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I work with individuals, couples, and polycules (groups of any size). I’m happy to talk through your particular needs on free consult call (click here to get on my calendar!) We can discuss whether it would make the most sense for you to come solo, with one partner, or multiple partners or metamours! My goal is to create a space where everyone can be heard - even when talking about hard topics, and I’ll support whatever arrangement makes the most sense for your unique dynamics.
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I know that coordinating schedules - especially with more than two people - can feel like looking at the calendar from hell sometimes. We’ll work together to find a rhythm that fits everyone’s lives, whether that means weekly sessions, every other week, or something more flexible. Some clients come together as a group, while others might have some individual sessions, or those with just two people at a time, along with “whole group” sessions. We’ll figure out what makes sense for your relationship dynamic and go from there.
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It depends. Because therapy is regulated by state licensure, I can only provide online therapy to people who are physically located in Delaware, Maryland, or Pennsylvania at the time of the session. If someone in your relationship or polycule lives outside those states and also can’t travel to my Delaware office in person for sesions, I can’t include them directly in therapy.
But, don’t fear - I’m a big believer in the ripple effect of therapy - so you and those who do fall within those states working on themselves can definitely make an impact on others connected to you - even if they’re not in the room.
Depending on your situation, we can also explore shared communication tools and activities or exercises you might share with your extended loved ones to help them feel part of the process, too.
Please feel free to review my general FAQ page here as well for additional answers to common questions about therapy overall.
